Newborn Babies with Addiction!!!

[bobinfaith]

Hello brothers and sisters;

My wife and I never had children and will never know what it's like to be a Dad or Mom. Fortunately we are surrounded by nephews and nieces from our sibling's children. Most of them are grown up with one niece who is 8 years old.

I was watching a disturbing program about a husband and wife who had a serious drug addiction to methamphetamine and marijuana. Their son was born with an addiction. The husband and wife both went into a 1 year rehabilitation. Upon completion they divorced. The boy lived with the husband's mother (grandmother.)

Today the boy is 5 years old. Between the husband (and his new wife,) ex wife and grandmother, the visitation time between the 3 of them is a strain.

I feel the child is the one who suffers the most. What I found most disturbing is the boy was born with an addiction.

My question is, does anyone have a testimony and know of a similar situation? Did the child overcome the born addiction? Was there a successful ending?

Or, did this go on with the child for years?

For 20 years I visited and ministered to men in a recovery center, and families who had a member with a dependency problem. But I never experienced the magnitude of a born child addiction from the program I watched. It was disturbing knowing the child suffered the most.

James 5:15, 15 And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven. - NIV

Isaiah 49:25, 25 For thus says the Lord: “Even the captives of the mighty shall be taken, and the prey of the tyrant be rescued, for I will contend with those who contend with you, and I will save your children. - ESV

Thoughts?

bobinfaith

 

[Yesua888]

Hello brothers and sisters;

My wife and I never had children and will never know what it's like to be a Dad or Mom. Fortunately we are surrounded by nephews and nieces from our sibling's children. Most of them are grown up with one niece who is 8 years old.

I was watching a disturbing program about a husband and wife who had a serious drug addiction to methamphetamine and marijuana. Their son was born with an addiction. The husband and wife both went into a 1 year rehabilitation. Upon completion they divorced. The boy lived with the husband's mother (grandmother.)

Today the boy is 5 years old. Between the husband (and his new wife,) ex wife and grandmother, the visitation time between the 3 of them is a strain.

I feel the child is the one who suffers the most. What I found most disturbing is the boy was born with an addiction.

My question is, does anyone have a testimony and know of a similar situation? Did the child overcome the born addiction? Was there a successful ending?

Or, did this go on with the child for years?

For 20 years I visited and ministered to men in a recovery center, and families who had a member with a dependency problem. But I never experienced the magnitude of a born child addiction from the program I watched. It was disturbing knowing the child suffered the most.

James 5:15, 15 And the prayer offered in faith will make the sick person well; the Lord will raise them up. If they have sinned, they will be forgiven. - NIV

Isaiah 49:25, 25 For thus says the Lord: “Even the captives of the mighty shall be taken, and the prey of the tyrant be rescued, for I will contend with those who contend with you, and I will save your children. - ESV

Thoughts?

bobinfaith

Thanks Bob, for sharing your story, and the story of addiction : )
I was wondering how they knew that a 5 year old had an addiction, and what kind of addiction.
My own story (and this is kind of raw, touching a sore part in my heart) - in a nutshell:
I was married for 5 years, and had realised that my husband was heavily addicted to alcohol; I found out that his parents were also alcoholics. I therefore did not want children ... An ultimatum was given to me by my husband via my mum, and I relented.
I now have two children who are very addictive (alcohol, sex, and drugs).
My daughter has by the Grace of God, been through rehab for alcohol (2 years ago); she is still addicted to pharma drugs (her room is full of tablet bottles and boxes) She is living with us for a while until she can sort her life out. She is battling with pain, fibroids and endometriosis - hence all the pharmaceuticals.
My son follows "Abraham Hicks" (Law of Attraction). He is not open any discussions other than his "following"; he still lives with 3 major addictions (and is gay); yet he functions in the work place (as his dad did).
I pray often to Father in Jesus name, for healing for us all ...
I pray that my second husband (who says he is athiest, along with his family), my children and his family, will find Jesus.
Please keep them in your prayers.
Blessings, Linda

 

[bobinfaith]

Good morning, Yesua888;

The symptoms of the infant boy's withdrawals were not revealed while at birth from his mother's addictions, just that he was born with withdrawals.

When he reached 5 years old he didn't have the withdrawals but lived a strained life living between his Mom, Dad and second wife and the grandparents who were gnawing at each other with the boy in the middle. It showed how contentious the grownups were instead of thinking of the child's stability and peace.

What I find very sad is how alcohol dependence and drug addiction happen before the couple start a family, whether married or (living in cohabitation.) Help is available.

What I find even more sad are couple's dependency or addiction happen in their family after the children are born.

Thank you for your honesty, Linda. I feel there is enough admonishing to the individual, couple or family regarding these areas. I find more firm encouragement (sprinkling of salt,) not sugar coating uplifts a person.

There is something deep in an individual that "a drink" or "a hit" triggers and alters the mind or body with euphoria and escaping a hard days night of life.

Many times the cause is an estranged relationship in a family, friendship, work or self low esteem.
I once spoke at a week night recovery dinner and many of the men and women had extreme difficult relationships with their teen or adult children.

I expressed that the believer needs to step up and assure their child that no matter the broken relationship, how grown up, successful or down and out their child is, by telling them they love and are proud of them, many times that's all their child wants to hear from their parent.

It may not bring instant reconciliation but it's a start in the right direction of healing.

Colossians 3:12-13, 12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. - KJV

I'm not a licensed, clinical therapist but can minister and share from my heart to others who may be crying and suffering to whom they may not know.

God bless everyone.

bobinfaith

 

[Yesua888]

Good morning, Yesua888;

The symptoms of the infant boy's withdrawals were not revealed while at birth from his mother's addictions, just that he was born with withdrawals.

When he reached 5 years old he didn't have the withdrawals but lived a strained life living between his Mom, Dad and second wife and the grandparents who were gnawing at each other with the boy in the middle. It showed how contentious the grownups were instead of thinking of the child's stability and peace.

It is indeed sad how "adults" neglect their children, when they are "children" themselves, trying desperately to cope in a marriage ... the children may be in the "background" yet suffer symptoms of neglect for the rest of their lives, unless Jesus comes in ...

What I find very sad is how alcohol dependence and drug addiction happen before the couple start a family, whether married or (living in cohabitation.) Help is available.

What I find even more sad are couple's dependency or addiction happen in their family after the children are born.

Thank you for your honesty, Linda. I feel there is enough admonishing to the individual, couple or family regarding these areas. I find more firm encouragement (sprinkling of salt,) not sugar coating uplifts a person.

I was thinking about a comment you made earlier (in another post) about growing this site. I thought am I being selfish, or fearful. The overwhelming though was, how can we feel safe sharing like this, and will we have egotistical people butting in and "tainting the waters". Just felt I should get off my mind what has been on it for some time?
David is so Good at keeping people on track, that I know that I should not worry about the wrong elements, "souring this site" or causing harm. Then there are amazing backups like yourself Bob, who enrich the site further. I am so grateful to be here, and others deserve to experience what I am experiencing; it is God's Domaine.
I will continue to prayer ...

There is something deep in an individual that "a drink" or "a hit" triggers and alters the mind or body with euphoria and escaping a hard days night of life.

Many times the cause is an estranged relationship in a family, friendship, work or self low esteem.
I once spoke at a week night recovery dinner and many of the men and women had extreme difficult relationships with their teen or adult children.

I expressed that the believer needs to step up and assure their child that no matter the broken relationship, how grown up, successful or down and out their child is, by telling them they love and are proud of them, many times that's all their child wants to hear from their parent.

For many years now, I have thought that I am an "enabler" and have had to play the opposite role at times (especially during abusive alcoholic outbursts and bad behaviours). My children know that I am all forgiving, that I am here for them, and that I LOVE them unconditionally (it is a Mother's role, isn't it?). I guess it has been a journey of learning to put in place healthy boundaries, that I lacked whilst growing up too.

It may not bring instant reconciliation but it's a start in the right direction of healing.

It is in God's hands, and he is watching over them

Colossians 3:12-13, 12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye. - KJV

I'm not a licensed, clinical therapist but can minister and share from my heart to others who may be crying and suffering to whom they may not know.

God bless everyone.

bobinfaith

 

[bobinfaith]

I was thinking about a comment you made earlier (in another post) about growing this site. I thought am I being selfish, or fearful. The overwhelming though was, how can we feel safe sharing like this, and will we have egotistical people butting in and "tainting the waters". Just felt I should get off my mind what has been on it for some time? David is so Good at keeping people on track, that I know that I should not worry about the wrong elements, "souring this site" or causing harm. Then there are amazing backups like yourself Bob, who enrich the site further. I am so grateful to be here, and others deserve to experience what I am experiencing; it is God's Domaine.
I will continue to prayer ... It is in God's hands, and he is watching over them

Hello Linda;

I feel David is good at monitoring the forums and as long as we keep our personal testimonies and prayer requests within the scope of the Scriptures and what we share or confess is appropriate.

I always say a prayer before logging on so as to avoid an ego, arrogance, instead, be prayerfully sensitive to others, but firm to refute if a false teaching or folly statement is made that doesn't align with God's Word.

Thank you as well for your thoughts, Linda. It does give me room to reflect.

God bless everyone.

bobinfaith